tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32541547.post115531209325829439..comments2023-06-16T06:14:17.580-07:00Comments on beyond assumptions: Filtersstevehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03275381128126684009noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32541547.post-1156425363696291302006-08-24T06:16:00.000-07:002006-08-24T06:16:00.000-07:00Great point. My sense is that such situations ove...Great point. My sense is that such situations override our "filters," if you will, allowing us to focus on others. So our filters are not always active.<BR/><BR/>It's interesting to think about what it means to have filters overriden. In part, I think it simply involves an engagement of our compassion or capacity for love. In my practice when working with intransigent families, I will often harness a parent's desire to be a good parent -- their concern for their child -- in encouraging them to make some kind of change (say, stopping some kind of verbal abuse). In essence, I'm trying to engage their compassion or love in order to get past their filter.stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03275381128126684009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32541547.post-1156395573312877662006-08-23T21:59:00.000-07:002006-08-23T21:59:00.000-07:00I think the fact that most people do manage to for...I think the fact that most people do manage to form a connection with others---whether it is "love" or "compassion" or whatever you may want to call it--despite the fact that we are essentially designed to think about ourselves first, is one of the mysteries of life. I am sure that most of the time I am motivated by self-interest on some level, yet I can think of times in my life where I cared only for another person in a difficult situation. Parenthood supplied examples of this like no other. It is an almost primitive instinct to protect your own and it seems to override all the "thinking" I may be doing about myself or other things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com